Cowardly Lions

How hard is having a conversation?

Ghosting abounds.

That’s because many grown-ass women and men are too terrified to have a short conversation with another human being to tell them that they don’t think they’re a “match.”

No one likes disappointing another person — especially when we’re talking romance.

Perhaps you just didn’t like the way someone looks or smells. Maybe they said something that gives you pause. Maybe the kissing or sex was “off.”

Or, you simply realized that your lifestyles were just not compatible.

Have humans really become so fungible that we can spend a couple of hours conversing with someone, sharing a meal and/or a bed, and hearing the story of their lives and then just disappearing or blocking them?

Obviously, the answer is “Hell yeah” but I’m hoping that this post may inspire some good manners from at least one of my readers.

If you spent 30 minutes or an hour with someone you can afford to spend 3-5 minutes to text, e-mail, or call them to let them know your feelings.

Even the old “Post-it Note” method (below) is preferable to the vanishing act.

• Are you afraid that they’ll cry, scream, or do something offensive?

• Are you afraid they’ll ask “Why?” and you might need to own up to your feelings?

• Do you just not think that it’s worth the time?

Admittedly, some people may not respond well to break-ups and let-downs. But you’ll find that the vast majority of people will appreciate communication and candor.

And, in those few situations where someone loses their shit, interrogates you about the reasons why, or threatens to do evil stuff, simply block their number and move on.

If you’re bold enough to go out with a total stranger, you can attempt to work up the courage to be kind and respectful.