Now that we’ve moved on from “The Golden Bachelorette” series, I will not bore you with tales of Joan and Chock’s search for a NYC apartment or their product endorsement deals.
Let’s get back to real reality (as opposed to reality TV).
My friend Casey and I have been single and on the apps for some time.
We often call each other when we’ve met someone who gives us (as Carrie Bradshaw from Sex and the City) would call the “Zsa Zsa Zsu.” It’s that hopeful feeling you get in your stomach, head, and other body parts every time you see a person).
But, as Casey and I discussed in our “90 Day Rule” episode, we often discover things about a person over time and travel adventures that can turn the ZZZ into apathy, the friend zone, or even the infamous ick.
Unlike the TV Bachelor franchise, where contestants are likely contractually obligated to pick someone over the course of filming, we don’t HAVE to choose anyone.
That’s why we talked on my podcast about overcoming your fear of being alone, which is fundamentally different from loneliness. You can watch the entire episode here.
As we enter the holiday season, arriving at feasts solo can sometimes plunge us into a state of mini-depression, especially when friends and relatives ask us why we’re still single.
Remind them that being single is not the same as being a “loser” and that holding out for someone spectacular (especially after 50) is a choice and not an indication of a major character flaw.
And, if you need more tips about navigating the holiday feast, watch my podcast interview with a therapist about “Family Feuds.”
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