Show Up & Don’t F*ck Up!
How to Present Yourself Live or Online: Part 1
First, an original verse:
Among the many things I wish…
I do not want to see your fish.
I do not want to see your dick.
Or yet another bathroom pic.
I do not want to see your mom.
Or photos from your high school prom.
I do not want to see your bed.
Or, view the top of just your head.
Please be yourself…and please talk straight.
And maybe you will get a date.
The End. (Or actually, a new beginning.)
Whether you’re putting up an online dating profile or you meet someone for the first time in the real world, presenting yourself to prospective suitors is not unlike going after a job or creating a personal brand to build your business.
You must be genuine BUT also appealing.
Developing Your Personal Dating Brand
As one of my marketing professors said:
“If you see the world through the eyes of the consumer, you’ll never be wrong.”
So, as you’re embarking on (or continuing) your dating adventures, ask yourself:
“How do I look to the person I’m trying to attract?”
And, most important, who is that person? (See my previous post about that topic.)
If you lead with your boobs or your package, viewers may assume (rightly or wrongly) that you’re mostly out for a physical relationship.
Posing at the top of a mountain in your online profile or posting about your worn passport? People will assume you love the great outdoors and travel.
If your profile is filled with typos and you look messy, you’re clearly showing up as you really are but that might not appeal to everyone.
And, in the real world…
If you’re bellied up to the bar and you’re working on your fourth martini, prospective suitors will view you as the life of your own party.
First impressions can be powerful and lasting. The initial 7 seconds are critical.
My next installment will cover 10 simple things that you can do to amp-up your personal dating brand >50.
(And remember, if you invest in a paid subscription, you’ll get one-on-one coaching and some cool new tools later this year!)