Is Joan Safe?

And what does that really mean?

Joan repeatedly said that some suitors make her feel “safe.”

I know it’s Halloween season and that zombies and bats abound.

That’s probably not what she was talking about. I’ve never seen a chainsaw massacre at the mansion.

The repeated use of the word prompted me to Google what that word may mean in a relationship.

According to the AI-generated definition (which has become one of my fave sources these days, although I ALWAYS fact- and source-check):

“Safety in a relationship is the feeling of trust and security that allows both partners to be open and vulnerable with each other. It's the foundation of a healthy and loving relationship, and it can lead to deeper connection and intimacy. 

Emotional safety in a relationship can mean: 

• Feeling comfortable sharing your thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or criticism;

• Feeling confident that your partner understands and accepts you; 

• Being able to share your true self, including your weaknesses, without being taken advantage of;

• Feeling assured of your connection with your partner, even when you're not physically together.”

Sounds pretty fantastic, yes!

But, as discussed in my podcast this week, you need to feel safe within yourself before expecting someone in a hazmat suit (metaphorically) to save you.

Joan doesn’t give off a damsel-in-distress vibe. She drives fast with the top down and has the balls to send fan favorites packing. But she often makes comments that imply she “needs” someone in her life rather than “wants” someone.

Keep that in check, girl!

But, as we (women and men) all go through our relationship journeys, we should add SAFETY as an attribute. (Perhaps it’s tied for first — along with compatibility, joy, and attraction!)

Until next week….