Five Men I "Swipe Left" On (and Why)
5 Things in NancyAF's Brain the Week of 8/10
This is a slight departure from my “usual” weekly format.
The heat in Arizona has made me a little lazy, so I just picked one topic and will detail five things within that.
It was prompted by many conversations I’ve had with friends of both sexes about the wild, weird world of online dating. No wonder people are going back to meeting in real life!
(I recently took a break and felt so much better for it!)
Singles (and coupled-up people who love to hear about dating) may be able to relate to this list.
I would love to hear the five things men observe in profiles too, so if you’re bold enough, please comment below!
First, the whole notion of “browsing humans” and deciding to accept or reject them based on age, appearance, and writing skills is a bizarro concept. I confess to being a bit judgmental about spelling and grammar errors (“your” versus “you’re) and blatant lies about age (claiming they made a mistake and the app won’t let them change it). But the bigger things that are a hard no for me are:
Pix taken in the bathroom. I will not form an opinion of you based on your toilet brand. I’m not sure why this is even a thing.
Pix with dead fish, tigers, or people with their faces x-out. Just weird.
Multiple group photos are not a major red flag. But did your friends and family agree that you could post them on a dating site? Or, do I need to guess which one of ten people in a picture is you? As a parent and grandparent, I’m generally skittish about people who post their kids and grandbabies. It’s even worse when they scribble over their faces (see #2).
I know you love your dog. But I don’t want to see you kissing them on the mouth.
The first four are pretty superficial, but once I start chatting with someone (via messaging rather than speaking), other no-nos include too much immediate sex talk, endless texting with no real interest in speaking or meeting, and binary, uninspired questions like, “How was your day?”
Something I’ve learned over my many years of singlehood is that, above all, go with your gut!
When we’re younger, we look for different things in a relationship than when we’re in a later phase.
Know yourself first.
What qualities are you REALLY looking for?
Need help? Stop swiping for a while and check out my book.
Because I like to give you some factual info each week, the following is a chart I researched, wrote, and designed using AI. As long as I’m single, I spend some of my free time learning new tech skills!